November 2009
35 posts
and then
Had to leave the dinner table to get away from my father hurling abuse at the TV news, screaming at my sister, threatening to shove his foot up the dog’s bum, and swearing when someone makes too much noise while clearing up the dishes. Paralysed.
Come back to an email with a detailed sociological critique from a friend of why I am wrong in asking him not to use the word ‘cunt’...
The worn-down relationship
A dear friend told me last night that she is now ‘dating’ a person who has been after her for several years, whom she has previously rejected the advances of on multiple occasions because she was unequivocally not interested.
I’ve never met this person, so I realise I’m being extremely unfair and judgmental, but I feel as though she’s ‘settling’. I feel...
Cower-d
I judge others for being cowardly, yet I can’t fix or face my own primal daily terror.
“And feminism also dares to expect more from men. Feminism expects a man to be...”
– Michael Kimmel, author of Guyland (via shinycrunchy)
And then, of course
…one is reminded that it is even more annoying when a man tries to hit on you by impressing you with how knowledgeable and intelligent HE is, but actually comes across as patronising and condescending.
So I should stop complaining.
Intimidation
Over the last few months, I have had several men tell me that they find me intimidating, right before they attempt to pick me up.
This made me really angry, and uncomfortable, actually. I somehow don’t think they’re referring to my flawless, goddess-like beauty. It has normally come after an intellectual debate, or explaining what I’ve been researching at uni. These guys are...
Ethics
Making a concerted effort to treat people with respect and dignity.
I’m often not very good at judging what the best way is to go about doing something potentially offensive or hurtful. I think that being honest in a kind and discreet way is how I would like others to treat me, but when I try and behave that way to others they often don’t appreciate it.
So I will sound out the...
gorgeous-notebook →
Stumbled across this while looking for a gift for a newborn. This is definitely the kind of message I would want to be sending to a child.
Complexities
Sometimes, I don’t know what to think. And I don’t know how anyone else can have a firm opinion on these things, either. Most likely, they haven’t really thought about it that deeply.
Asylum seekers, I’m trying not to care. I just finished a thesis on them. I’m spent. But, its front page news, and it is a new and major development/crisis, can’t escape it.
...
fail.
I completely disagree with the previous quote. The only time unrequited love equals self-inflicted pain is when it is secret, which is cowardly.
Unrequited love makes the holder angry, frustrated and sad, eroding self-esteem, and the object guilty, angry and, eventually, callous.
Falling in love (or lust) with someone makes you believe that you have a claim over them, if nothing more than basic...
“Unrequited love may be painful, but it is safely painful, because it does not...”
– Alain de Botton (via happypoodlesandrawnoodles) (via onebadapple) (via literarypiano) (via buyhercandy)
